Using Clubs And Watering Holes To Meet Men – “Pointers For The Single Girls

So apparent, yet in practice pretty tough places in which to meet somebody. Heaps of groups of folks for sure; but they’re so often a mixture of men and women in separate groups, so how do you know who is dating who? Making eye contact with somebody’s boyfriend in an overcrowded bar could be a pretty foolish action to take. Then again, big groups of blokes are a bit of a turn-off. Powered by booze and testosterone, are they actually out to meet somebody special, or just showing off/celebrating the national team’s win/on the pull? And the nearer to closing time it gets, a mix of booze-fuelled spectacles and desperation doesn’t make for the most exacting choice.

And the fellow on his very own? Stood up by his fiance maybe, or just drowning his sorrows? He might be fine, but he might just be a 5 star loser. What to do?

When you’ve spotted someone that looks fascinating, take the long or the awkward way round to the bar or the toilet in order to get a closer look. If he looks cute, see if you can catch his eye on your return journey.

If you notice someone taking a look at you, smile softly and hold his eyes long enough to see if he returns the smile or nods in return. Do not look away straight after smiling — straightforward to do if you’re kind of shy — or you will not know what type of response you have had and it will have been a waste of time!

Try an informal line like, ‘Have you any idea what time this place closes? ‘ or, ‘l don’t suppose you know a local cab number ‘? ‘ Nothing too cheesy or offensive. A reference to the fact that his flies might be undone, even if they’re flying at half-mast, will not thrill the object of your attention!

If you’re feeling actually brave and the coast looks pretty clear, one of the best strategies is simply to offer to buy a guy a drink. While some men still find this approach too full on for their tastes, a large amount of men are impressed with a pushy girl.

Another probability, though sometimes better toward the end of an evening, when a little Dutch bravery might be in order, is to get one of your friends to get chatting to a man that you like and check out, as subtly as possible , whether he would also have an interest in you. ‘My girlfriend fancies you ‘ is a method regularly used at singles events and is a great icebreaker.

Take the straight approach. It’s often difficult to have a meaningful conversation in a gigantic, noisy, crowded bar, so going up to someone that looks cute, and either asking for his number or offering him yours with a view to having a chat sometime soon when it’s not so chaotic can work wonders. He may feel flattered, and appreciate your candour in not needing to interrupt either of your evenings with your mates, or make him try and talk in an atmosphere not particularly conducive to a meeting of minds. It’s bold, it’s brave, but it’s definitely worth trying, and dating pros like Kara Oh would be pleased with you.

Susan Pinner is a dating coach and reporter on subjects like how to attract men, and preferred dating manuals like Guy Gets Girl.