Men That Never Apologize-Is It thought Of As A Weakness

There is much conjecture, usually among women, as to why some (not all) men seem so reluctant to apologize. Is it true that men that never apologize view apologies as a sign of weakness?

It’s an age old dilemma, and it is not much of a secret, men and women simply do not fully understand the way we each think and act.

But, the real question is this: do men and women act the way they do because of some pre -wiring and physiology? Or is it more because of the programming we get from the society we live in?

I’m not an expert but my money is on a combination of both. We know that men can be capable of great love and sensitivity, yet for many men, they rarely show it. Why?

I suspect that to a large degree it will go back to a few main characteristics of the particular man in question:

1. How was he raised? What were his parents like? You can almost always bet that a man who had a more sensitive and nurturing father and mother will be more sensitive and nurturing too.

If he was raised by a strong man (I don’t mean a pompous macho man who is overcompensating for some perceived short coming) who is not afraid to open up with his emotions, he will likely be more like that.

2. Is your guy secure in himself? If he is, he will likely be more willing to apologize. There are many who think that apologizing is a sign of weakness, but that doesn’t make any sense at all.

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Since when is it “weak” to do the right thing even when it is difficult to do? We teach our kids that they should do the right thing no matter how hard it is.

If our kids know it, grown men should know it too.

It isn’t a sign of weakness to apologize, that is just an excuse.

3. Some guys are so embarrassed by their mistake they basically want to pretend it never happened.

I read an article that said that since men tend to be more visual than women they won’t apologize until they see your pain.

In other words, unless you break down he won’t realize he has hurt you and he won’t apologize.

With all due respect, bull. I don’t believe that. I believe men are much deeper than some primitive neanderthal.

I believe men are perfectly smart enough to figure out when they have caused another person pain without having to “see” the results.

So, I guess I’m saying, that I believe most men are perfectly capable of recognizing their mistakes and offering a sincere apology to someone they have hurt.

Men that never apologize are most likely just afraid. Afraid to admit to you or anyone else that they were wrong. Afraid because they don’t know if they can make it right and really just want it to all go away. That is kind of weak, wouldn’t you say?

How To Deal With A Break Up- Steps to Healing

If your last break up still hurts a lot then do not worry, there is help out there about how to deal with a break up. Following a few steps can help you move through the healing process much quicker and you won’t want to kill anyone in the process. Your dignity will remain intact.

The first thing you need to do is give yourself a week or two and just take it easy. Don’t worry too much about housework or other mundane chores that need to be done, they aren’t going anywhere. Just take things slow and allow yourself to process everything that has just happened. Do not ignore things that can and will make your life more difficult if you don’t take care of them, like going to work or paying your bills on time, but do ignore anything that won’t make your life more difficult. You deserve a little you time for just a little while.

Just make sure you set a time limit for this period of ‘mourning’. Only allow yourself a week or two and then kick yourself in the behind and get moving. No one is saying that you should be over things in a week or two but you should have some sort of plan at least roughed in after a few weeks. That should be enough time to get things sorted out and then it’s time to get going and start living your life again while you continue the healing process.

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Step two in the how to deal with a break up manual is to make sure that you take care of yourself. Now that you’ve had some down time, it’s time to return to the land of the living. Make sure that even though you still feel angry and hurt that you take the time to eat right and get enough sleep. A little exercise thrown in couldn’t hurt either. This is not the time to get drunk and sleep around. Those things may offer a little short term relief but remember at the beginning of the article I said that I’d help you move on with your dignity intact, doing either of these things won’t help your dignity at all, so don’t do them.

Step three is to make sure that you accept that the relationship is over and done and avoid your ex at all costs. If the two of you have a lot of the same friends you may still see your ex when you are out. As painful as that may be, you need to learn to look the other way and ignore them. and you see them when you’re out with friends, ignore them. It may seem harmless enough to say hi and have a drink with them, but after you’ve had a drink (or more) you may do or say something that you will later regret.

Step four is to understand that no matter how impossible it may seem now that you will ever find love or feel happiness again, you will someday. No one can tell you when that day will come but if you allow yourself the time you need to grieve and deal with all the emotions you have churning around inside, you may help that day when you are happy again come a little more quickly. All of these tips can help you learn how to deal with a break up as quickly as possible.